Parapsychology Journalism: The People, The Theory, The Science, The Skeptics
After getting three comments or e-mails in the last couple of weeks asking about the pressure in the skull, the migraines and such, I felt it was time to address this in a post. These things do not affect all psychic people, but enough of them that I think it’s relevant. I’ve certainly heard about this from enough people that I’m coming to believe that it is a widespread phenomenon among psychic people.
For me, it is thankfully only a pressure. I do not get the full fledged headaches and thankfully, no migraines. But others are not so lucky. I will update this post with examples later, but I’m on the road and accessing my e-mail is dreadfully slow. For the purpose of this article, I am going to refer to this as simply “The Pressure”.
Here’s my theory as to what is happening: The pressure almost certainly does not affect people who grew up in households that were accepting of psychic ability and is almost certainly related to how our families reacted to the presence of psychic ability.
We know from psychological studies that children will automatically learn to fear what their parents fear. If a baby sees a snake for example, it will not initially react, but if the mother is present, and she reacts violently to having a snake in the room with her child, the child will then cry if a snake is in the room with it. It is an instinctual response in the child to automatically fear what the parents fear. Once the child imprints these fears they are not easily undone.
We also know that we are emotionally very sensitive people and one of our traits is that we will go to extreme lengths to decrease our own stress by reducing the stress of the people around us. We will alter our own behavior quickly if this results in less fear and agitation around us. We do this as adults, but we did this much more as children; the habit of altering our behavior when it upsets other people is very ingrained in most of us and we would be hard pressed to change this trait.
Unless you’ve been living in a cave your whole life, you know that while a lot of people are intellectually accepting of psychic ability, they find it quite unsettling to actually encounter it. Heck, we have all been freaked out by our own ability from time to time. When our parents get freaked out by the ability, it sends us a strong negative message as children and when it freaks out other people around us, it reinforces that message. Don’t do the psychic stuff, it’s bad and it upsets other people.
Once we have that message firmly implanted at the subconscious level, all the problems begin. We can never surgically block out that ability, we are going to lose a piece of ourselves when we do it. If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard the phrase: “I feel like I have a path, but I don’t know what it is.” or “I feel like I’m missing something important.” I’d be a rich man. This is what happens and it is a direct result of shutting down the psychic information that we need to use to guide ourselves and others.
We have an enormous need to access our psychic selves. The need to embrace that part of ourselves is a force greater than the fear we have. It sets up an often tremendous clash in us as we struggle with the dichotomy between who we are and who we’re pretending to be. Most of the people in the world can go through their entire lives playing out a role that they’ve carved for themselves, and be content doing it, but we cannot.
We have that THING constantly in the background, telling us who we really are and what we are really supposed to be doing.
And when we’re trying to live a “normal” life and pretend we don’t hear, we suffer for it. It is scary to be this different psychic person that freaks other people out, but much more scary than that is being stuck in some sort of act that isn’t really us. With the act, we try to believe that we’re in control.
But we aren’t of course. That THING is causing The Pressure, telling us the truth about ourselves in a voice we have long since shut down and can no longer hear. No matter what though, it won’t go away. We haven’t driven it away, we’ve only pushed it into a room whose door we can never fully close. We are driven to embrace it; we know that this is the only place where we’ll ever find peace of mind, but we have been conditioned to fear it terribly.
This clash forms the basis for The Pressure. Our wants and needs, hopes and desires and above all, the shining, glowing light of our souls grind relentlessly against our deep fear of upsetting other people and our need to conform and be “normal.”
The Pressure is the sound of gnashing gears in our heads trying drive us in opposite directions and grinding against one another in a horrible shrieking cacophony of ear splitting nails-on-the-chalkboard noise that manifests as pressure, headaches and migraines.
There is only one escape from this: we must take the time to heal ourselves, slow though the process may be. This may come in the form of therapy, chiropractic, acupuncture or natural medicines; or it may come in the form of directly facing the fear through sheer will or perhaps simple exercise. Whatever the method, the intent is the most important part. Break down the wall of fear by any means and embrace the psychic messages that are trying to get through the noise.
The Pressure will not let go, will not stop, will not die down, will never give up. It is our soul trying to give us the gift of ourselves and somewhere, deep down inside, we know that we never really wanted this normal “Muggle” type of life anyway. There is something better inside of us and if only we can listen, it will set us free.
It seems so easy, so close, only a a few beats of the heart away, yet when we reach, it seems cruelly out of our grasp. What I have learned is that we must keep reaching, regardless of the discouragement and despair, which so predictably arise and when I have almost given up I must reach some more. Slowly, that wall is begins to crumble. The fear seems so hard and so immovable, but over time, it does yield. It melts and dissolves with chunks of it breaking off and drifting away occasionally, gives hope that eventually the whole thing may start to break apart.
I wish I had an easy answer that immediately solved this problem, something that made the bad stuff go away, but I don’t. My only suggestion is hard work. The good news is that we are all connected deeply and permanently and we can build not just on our own achievements against the fear but on those of others as well. It is not so hard a task that we cannot achieve it.