Parapsychology Journalism: The People, The Theory, The Science, The Skeptics
Reading people can be a difficult business. Sometimes, for example, I have tried to read people without success, while with others, things just came to me. Or I’d try to do a psychic healing and find that I was just completely blocked. And then another time things would just flow. Sometimes, these things happen withe the same person at different times. What the heck is going on?
When using psychic ability, there is a lot to sort out and I would like to share with you some of the things that I think are happening when we try to use this ability. To explore this, we have to understand something of ourselves. We all have fears. Some of these are on the surface, such as worrying about making it to an appointment; Other fears are deeper, such as fear of ridicule and still others are so deep as to be completely unconscious for us, such as avoiding conflict by finding rationales for avoiding arguments when the best thing we can do for ourselves is have a confrontation.
Everyone, and I mean everyone, has all these levels of fears running all the time, but not everyone has the same fears and not all the fears are at the same levels for everyone. Typically, the deeper the fear, the less a person will be aware that they have it. It is the extremely rare person that can acknowledge all of their fears.
When we access things psychically, we all try to put our fears aside to give us the clearest signal possible. However, while this works for the more surface fears, it cannot completely shut out the deeper ones. And here is where we have to pay attention. Psychic ability is not only shut off by fears, it is distorted by them. Psychic ability is diminished in any situation where we care about the outcome. To care about something is not the same as loving. Care is a fear. For example, I will do better predicting football games with teams that I don’t know, than games in which my home team is playing. I want my team to win, and this means that I will be unconsciously blocking outcomes which I fear. It looks like a surface fear, but there are actually underlying fears that are creating this issue.
Therefore, when I try to see who will win psychically, the fear of failure will kick in and either cloud a result that I don’t want to see or give me the result that I wanted, whether it is the right one or not. Now instead of a football game, imagine a person who also has fears and you can see how this starts to get muddy in a real hurry.
We cannot read things accurately about other people if we have too much fear there ourselves. So to give a common example, many psychic people struggle with money issues. If we’re trying to read another person and their money issues, chances are we won’t get very clear pictures. Also, I’ve found that I don’t get particularly good readings from professional psychics because the things I want to know about are areas of fear for both of us. (Psychics have a lot of traits in common with each other.)
In general, the more fears a person has, the more conservative they will be. You may have already noticed this. Conservative people tend towards things that are safe for them, like oh, believing that psychic ability doesn’t exist. Consequently, displays of psychic ability will trigger those fears. We can’t help but pick up on this when we’re reading people psychically, so if we’re trying to read a skeptic, to prove them that we can do it, we will be running up against their fear that we will be right. Most psychic people cannot overcome fear like this because it is too similar to the normal doubts psychic people have about their abilities.
It takes a very strong person to overcome this and most psychic people lack that ability. Being people pleasers means not really having that mindset. To overcome something like this, you have to absolutely believe in yourself without any doubt or questioning . . .at all. To put it a different way, you have to totally remove that fear from yourself. Much easier said than done.
An analogy to this would be having an argument with someone. In one situation, you kind of know you’re right, but don’t have all the facts. The argument wanders because you can’t definitively make your point. You will always have some uncertainty about whether you’re right or not. In contrast, having that same argument, if you’re an expert in this area, you’re now basically a steamroller fighting a loaf of bread. It’s over in a hurry. You have complete certainty of your position and more importantly, you can act that way. It’s that feeling of confidence and absolute knowledge that we would have to have trying to psychically read skeptics.
Sometimes we can encounter psychic people who unconsciously don’t want the emotional exposure that comes with being read. Being emotional people, this sort of thing can come and go. This can make a person absolutely impossible to read one day, but not the next because their mood has changed. As psychic people, I’m sure you understand this.
In a reading, there is this back and forth of fears that happens in the background. It is the sort of thing that only diminishes with experience. The psychic reader has to learn to put those fears on the back burner and simply allow stuff to come through without it hitting the emotional trigger points. I’ve found that with healing work, I can’t even do that. I have to work through all the fears or I won’t be able to help someone else in that area. Conversely, as those fears have gone by the wayside, my ability to heal has increased dramatically.
By being aware of how fear affects the ability to see things psychically, we can be better prepared to manage it when it does appear and perhaps compensate for the effects that fear can have on us.