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My Life as a Schizotypal Personality

I know, it sounds like I have a mental problem.  Schizotypal sounds so much like schizophrenic, but it’s not.  I am genetically similar to schizophrenics, but with some major differences.  Most notably, I don’t have paranoia and I don’t hallucinate.  Not that I’m normal, but I can cope with my life.

You’ve probably never heard the term; most people haven’t.  A person with a schizotypal personality is basically a highly sensitive person who is also highly creative.  The combination of these two things makes for a potent cocktail.  We have the capacity for genius, but also can be crippled emotionally; We can be sort of like the really fast sports car that’s always in the shop.  As an example let’s take two ordinary people.  Myself, and “Johnny.”  Both of us are about the same age, sensitive, with an artistic nature and pretty intelligent with relatively ordinary lives and fit the description of schizotypal in many ways.  Both of us are self employed handymen.

I own my own home, have a contractor’s license, a B.A. in Spanish, I’ve been married for 25 years and I have a host of other accomplishments including speaking awards, short films I’ve created, artwork I’ve painted, this blog and a few other things.  I am physically healthy and not in therapy.  We have money problems, but this is hardly unusual and by the standards of many, my wife and I are well off.

In contrast, Johnny is sick these days with a spinal infection and has never been able to get his life together.  He retreated into heroin many years ago and has never been able to fully kick the habit and never made anything of himself.  He earns a bit here and a bit there when he can, but relies on the kindness of others basically to get by.  He’s also been in prison.  Why did we end up so differently?  It may come down to this: my father, who is also a fairly sensitive man, passed on an attitude to me of ignoring conventional wisdom and following your gut.  It may have been this simply thing that had given me the toehold that I needed to maintain my sanity.  (I’ll explain this later.)

Psychologists are conflicted about us, with some classifying schizotypal as a mental disease with labels such as fantasy prone personality, Borderline Personality Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder and literally a laundry list of other pathological classifications.  Others, by contrast, recognize us as a bona fide personality type.

If ever there was a controversial personality type in psychology, we are it.  This is mostly due to one very important aspect of the schizotypal personality: the presence of a trait that David Ritchey refers to as “Anomalously Sensitive,” otherwise known as psychic ability.  As you can imagine, this stirs the pot more than a bit as many psychologists have rather strong views on whether this is imaginary or real.  Generally, psychological research tends to dismiss the existence of psychic ability while there seems to be more acceptance among practicing psychologists.

It’s a tricky area.  Imagine you’re a psychologist and a person comes to you and in the course of therapy admits that he/she can see and hear ghosts.  How you respond will depend more on you than the patient.  If you think that ghosts are real, then the patient is sane, but highly sensitive.  If you think that ghosts are imaginary, then you have a delusional schizophrenic or psychotic patient on your hands.  In any case, what you, the therapist, believe, will make a big difference for the patient.  If you are wrong it can have serious consequences.  A person who is sane, but is extremely sensitive may be psychologically harmed by the idea that he/she is crazy.  Likewise a person who is psychotic or paranoid can be harmed by a misdiagnosis.

Hypnotherapist and Schizotypal Personality expert David Ritchey explains the correct approach in his book The H.I.S.S. of the A.S.P.:

(…)  Moreover, as a clinical hypnotherapist, my focus was on the clients’ experiences rather than on the phenomena purported to underlie those experiences.  Therapeutically, it had historically proven efficacious to work with the clients’ experiences as if they were “really real”– to appropriately contextualize them, rather than to dismiss them as symptoms of a mental disorder.  Furthermore, the clients’ belief (or lack thereof) in the objective reality of the alleged underlying phenomena appeared to have little bearing on the successful outcome of the therapy.

This controversy is not at all helpful to people like me because we have obvious biological differences from the general population that create a condition of “otherness” that leads to a sense of isolation.  In the general population, the left side of the brain is dominant, while in schizotypals the right side is dominant.  For that reason, many schizotypal people are left-handed.  Those schizotypals who are right handed, such as myself, may have strong bilateral tendencies.  (We use both hands well.)  Being identified as being different from an early age and understanding the ramifications of this would be very helpful.

Just as extremely tall or short people and left-handers have to adjust to a world that was not built with their needs in mind, right brain people have to deal with a world in which the vast majority of values, attitudes, ideas and beliefs are in line with left brain dominant cultures.  Since those of us with schizotypal personalities typically grow up with little to no understanding of these differences, (and most often no one around us understands these differences either) we are frequently at odds with the rest of the world, which can be very stressful for us.

We tend to be more spiritually oriented than ordinary with an emphasis on direct experience (Gnostic) and tend to value emotional traits over physical ones.  Honesty, integrity, self awareness and wisdom are more valuable to us than height, physical beauty, skin color, sexual orientation or age.  Social issues are more important than personal ones’ and when it comes to objects, usefulness is more important than function.

Aside from these differences, by far the most challenging aspect of being schizotypal is the fast switching between different states of consciousness as a result of our high emotional sensitivity  and consequent strong emotions.  I rarely hear or read of psychologists mentioning this central aspect of our lives.  Logical thought is tied almost exclusively to our emotional state.  When our emotions change, so does our decision making.  This isn’t new.  California law recognizes that fact in this law:

Consumer’s Rights to Cancel Home Solicitation Contracts

September 2010

Virtually any consumer transaction in the amount of $25 or more which takes place in the buyer’s home or away from “appropriate trade premises” can be canceled by the buyer, without penalty or obligation, if the consumer gives a proper notice within three business days without giving a reason after the buyer signs the contract. In order to cancel, the buyer must give the seller written notice of the buyer’s intention not to be bound by the contract.

This cancellation right is created by the Home Solicitation Sales Act (the “Act”).1 The purpose of the Act is to protect consumers against pressure to make an immediate purchasing decision when a salesperson appears at their home, or where the sales pitch is given at a non-business location. Similar protections apply to most sales by telephonic sellers (see VI. below)2

What this law is saying is that people’s emotions can be swayed by smooth talking salespeople and therefore their logic can be impaired.  If given a chance to return their emotions to their normal state and rethink the contract, they might have regrets and this law gives them an opportunity to seek redress if that happens.

Now if this happens to ordinary people and their ordinary emotional states to the point where it requires a law, imagine what life must be like for people like me who experience their emotions very strongly.  Logical thought can be blown around like a dinghy on the open seas during a storm.  I can tell you from personal experience that this is probably the hardest thing we have to deal with, as these emotions can range from suicidal to deliriously happy.

I have moments of true paranoia, severe panic attacks, sudden phobias, tremendous joy, deep and heartfelt love, mischief and a variety of other very strong emotions.  All of these come with their own logical state of mind and in certain cases, memories.  Some memories are only accessible in certain emotional states.  Many memories and a lot of logical processes are very hard to access while in a state of strong fear.  I’m inclined to believe that different emotional states are actually altered states of consciousness that we’re so familiar with that we don’t even notice that this is what they are.

Yet for all of these strong emotions, I am not a basket case.  I manage just fine.  I did this by creating an Über self.  There is a part of me that watches myself having these emotions and does not get sucked in by them.  It allows me to remain rational in the midst of my logical mind going haywire, in which case the best thing to do is almost always . . . nothing.  Don’t react, don’t make decision, don’t argue or whatever it was that I was going to do and just chill out.  Eventually the heightened emotional state will die down and I’ll be able to think clearly again; often more clearly than I was previously able to.  Sometimes this cool down period is a matter of minutes, sometimes it’s a matter of days. The noise in my head is a constant racket and only this Über self can calm it down.  I have to see me, seeing myself in order to make any change.

Learning how to do this took many years and in the process I never stopped growing as a person and becoming more mature.  I did this because I didn’t have much of a choice.  Either I learned how to deal with this, or I gave up on life.  It was that kind of a decision.

I don’t think that Johnny ever learned how to develop that Über self to watch over his emotional merry-go-round.  Instead, he substituted drugs to quiet the noise in his head.  But what if someone had been there to help him? What if someone had understood his sensitivity and guided him on how to deal with being so different from ordinary people?  How might his life have turned out?

All good questions.

86 comments on “My Life as a Schizotypal Personality

  1. Nathan F
    November 30, 2020

    Amazing and very intelligent you read most of my thoughts and gave some strong advices that schizotypal like me can use on their daily lives. I found it amazing on how your dad taught you the attitude of ignoring “conventional wisdom” and going with your guts because I have a very similar influence from my father and it is the key for every person with a schizotypal personality. Hope you’re life’s going well Craig.

  2. Korrin
    June 9, 2019

    Thank you

  3. Alastair Hileman
    August 10, 2018

    Thank you for writing this.
    I used weed to cope with my erratic emotions, phasophobia, vibrant ideas that never translated to real life, and obsessiveness for almost a decade. I felt if I sobered up I’d find what was different about me. Seems I was right about that.

  4. Rudi
    March 14, 2018

    Could I contact you to ask some specific questions?

    • craigweiler
      March 17, 2018

      Sorry for the slow reply. I’m afraid I’m not really qualified to offer much in the way of assistance.

  5. Afam
    February 10, 2018

    Dear Craigweiler,
    I find your article uplifting, a glimmer of hope. I had spent most of the day researching STPD having realised I have the ‘disorder’ but most of what I found left me rather downcast.
    STPD has nearly destroyed my life. Lost a great job at 32 (just turned 34, now self-employed and not doing great) have not friends, my mind a constant battlefield.
    Needless to say, unlike you, I am yet to work out my challenges in such an opposing world. However now that I have a better understanding of what I am up against I will start working on developing my ‘Über’ self and perhaps start to rebuild all the damage. Hopefully I am not too late as at this point in my life I feel lost with no clue where to turn or what to do with myself.
    I sincerely hope you receive and respond to this comment since its been 6 years since your article was published. Perhaps you have learnt something new about STPD you would like to share..?

  6. Elaina Bush
    December 15, 2017

    This. Is the simplest and presice info on schizotypal, i have read in a long time. Most people i yalk to go straight to ” schizophrenia”. That scares me becaise this disorder is not – i first learened of it due to my mother ( a jehovahs witness and a child of an alcoholic) my son while in her care was blasting these signs and symptoms and we / I found a counselor that brought this dx up. It has helped greatly!!! I would consider myself a high functioning one and did and didnt see it in myself, yet same as co- dependent i feel o might have passed this along to my daughter. And while im still working on my self, i hope i can get her the right help to improve her life. Acknowledging this makes life- people- etc so much calmer to associate with. Although my favorite quote : The question that always makes me hazy – is it me or them that are crazy.: ( Albert Einstein). Thank you for the simple clarity – so i can share it without as much fear of misconceptions and clarity, to get the help i need as well as my daughter whom i feel i passed this trait to who is now tranfering this trait to my grandson. And i also have to praise us with this disorder for we do take the time to try to clarify, research and understand, where most take the misinformed gossip of others that hurt more than help. Have a Happy Holiday everyone!!!! ( thank you for this blog – p.s. im not a internet enthusiast so finding you has been the high light of my day)

    • craigweiler
      December 15, 2017

      I”m glad that I could help.

  7. Maranda
    December 6, 2017

    Thank you. This is the first reassuring thing I’ve seen about this. I’ve been fascinated with psychology my entire life and have recently come to be diagnosed with schizotypal. It really changes things to be learning a personality disorder knowing those symptoms are written about you. Seeing yourself a little bit more with every word you read. It can be hard to hear about what’s wrong with you and then beyond that as well reading some of the prognosis that’s I’ve seen. I’m not as lucky as you to have myself all sorted out. But knowing that I could be makes a difference.

  8. BeowulfSabrina
    November 21, 2017

    Is there any way to help my husband? He’s diagnosed with schizotypal, we were married 26 years, he had some sort of breakdown, started an affair with a coworker, and now thinks he needs to live alone like a monk and doesn’t want to be married or live together, but he says I’m the love of his life, he loves me more than anyone and we are soulmates. He won’t get help. He has such anger, but can mostly hold it together at work. He’s 56. Thank you.

  9. mustang1111
    July 29, 2017

    This blog really helped today. It’s just what I needed to read. I’ve been diagnosed with Schizotypal years ago. At the time, I didn’t understand the diagnosis paperwork and I proceded to rip it into tiny pieces. I Wish I had not done that. I’m very Spiritual and extremely intuitive. I’m left handed and very creative. It’s difficult for Me to get interested in things, but I am relentless when invested to a cause. When I’m feeling down, it’s My Spirituality that saves Me from drowning in disturbed Waters. I absolutely related to Your Entire blog. A very positive perspective on Your behalf. Relationships, Friendships and Family can be very frustrating. That Right Brain thinking versus Left Brain. Often My Coworkers don’t relate to Me and I tend to get left out of the loop. Any meaningful discussions are so appreciated by Me. That Moment Where You connect with another. Few and far between some days. So Thank You for sharing.

    • Alan
      July 30, 2017

      That’s right, Mustang. Only soulconnection is real in this world. That is Spirit in Action 🙂

  10. Jonnie the left hander™
    February 5, 2017

    The learn to deal with it idea rather than give in on life information is tremendously helpful to me..
    It’s going to be hard!!
    I would like to know if anybody has an idea/s as to why most people find us embarrassing or how we contribute to certain people including family members giving up on us and not wanting to be around us..

    • Alan
      February 7, 2017

      Hye Jonnie, you have a unique wiring because you have a unique duty in the whole. Do not bother too much about being different from all others, but rather try to find out how your unicity can serve the world. If you want to find out what you have come for, you have to develop your psychic abilities and remember who you truly are. And for that, you exactly need to be alone. Your way is not a common way. It is a unique path and only that path can bring you true joy. I would say: walk your line with God and let others walk their line with God. Simply dare to be original. All the best, Jonnie! And know that you never walk alone 🙂

  11. steviehebe
    January 23, 2017

    Could someone please help me. I got depressed and lost my girl cause I thought breaking up with her was a good idea. Now I haven’t been able to function and I am clinically depressed. I see my life as a series of embarrassing and impulsive disappointments and I don’t trust or like myself anymore. I am at my wits end and I think I am at THE end. I am schizotypal and have a million wonderful ideas but I can never actually follow through on any of them. I’m a dependent on my parents again and I think if this keeps up for much longer I will be dead. Someone please help.

  12. Anonymous
    November 28, 2016

    Thank you for this article, it’s exactly what I needed to read and I appreciate it greatly bc it was the first I’ve read so far that didn’t label me as someone who can’t function and should be on meds. I like your idea of creating a part of you to help yourself out of the manic emotions and I think that just might work for me! Thank you again!

  13. Kadeeja
    November 24, 2016

    Thank you for sharing your experience. This will help a lot of people. I feel so relieved reading this. Schizotypal personality was normal in my culture but with globalization etc. this is changing. I am also very sensitive emotionally to the point of feeling other people’s emotions which I have verified by asking them. All my sensations are heightened.

    The concept of Uber self is key. Fortunately in my culture, this is well known and is called the witnessing mode. I am also functioning well due to this by God’s grace. I am also a student of psychology and diagnosed myself right away. However I think rather than a true pathology, this may just be a way of being/brain functioning that is not in the majority. Thank you yet again. All the best.

  14. Ash cotter
    October 16, 2016

    Hi Johnny,

    Firstly Thank you for taking the time to share your take which I whole heartedly agree on.

    I was diagnosed with schizotypal disorder six months ago and I have been through many problems, I’m in the process of releasing my first ebook early next year.
    I speak about intuition and discovering life purpose learning to form successful habits, I had a severe gambling addiction and drug and alcohol problems from a young age, I also had physical athletic talent which was sadly hampered due to conditions over time.

    I have spent the last through years discovering where my own divine life purpose lay and I strongly believe to this day the mind is the most advance technology we have not only when we speak about mediums or psychic abilities it stretches into the cosmos, the and goes beyond, the term wrong planet or universal wisdom couldn’t be more uncanny, nothing is by change we are unique and it has purpose during this accelerating process of development we are experiencing here on earth.

    I still have blips but what you say about growing an uber self is an amazing outlook to use and the development of self awareness can come from knowledge, youtube google and social media make anything possible when we look to connect to our divine life purpose.

    I chose to totally recreate my social media to only connect to stuff of value, wisdom and practicality to our own development negativity plants those seeds and fears the less exposure we have the easier we can keep present the right vision.


  15. Peter M
    October 6, 2016

    CW, I am diagnosed with Schizotypal Personality Disorder, and as much as I admire your attempt to come to terms with it, you are out of your tiny, little mind if you honestly believe that STPD is some kind of cute ‘personality type’ instead of a full-blown, debilitating disorder that messes up your life real bad.

    • craigweiler
      October 6, 2016

      I wouldn’t describe it as cute. I would describe it as very challenging. Different people will handle it in different ways. I’m sorry if it’s a full-blown debilitating disorder for you. It’s not for me. I am however, all too aware of how things could have been different.

      I don’t know why I have been able to deal with it successfully and others haven’t. I do know that it wasn’t easy and it still takes a lot of work.

  16. Stippi
    September 10, 2016

    I’m a bit mindblown by your blog, the things you wrote in this post are sounding so familiar. I’m not diagnosed with anything but I did had my share of therapy, at the moment I’m seeing a therapist but he has a shamanistic orientation which is very helpful. It helps me in understanding what is going on inside of me. It’s just my own skepticism and disbelief in myself standing in the way. I never took any pills, so I guess I’m taking the difficult way out. And it does feel like choosing between dealing with it or opting out on life. This morning I strongly had the feeling that I want to learn to use this energy for creating/creativity instead of holding it all inside where it becomes destructive. I used to be able to use it for creating, this was my way of living and then a boyfriend came along and I convinced myself that my way of thinking, feeling, doing was wrong and his way was right. We broke up a few years ago. The way I use this type of energy now is something I gotten used to during the relationship, feeling depressed, anxious, beaten down. Everytime these emotions are coming in and the feelings of suicide and depression are taking over, I am able to take a step back and look at what is happening. Most of the time it just needs to pass by, but sometimes I sense the energy is different and I get the feeling I can flip this energy into creativity instead of letting it get to me in the form of depression, paranoia, suicidal thoughts. I’m living by myself now for 2 years and it is hard but at the same time I’m really learning to deal with myself and getting to know myself and how I roll and don’t roll. Thanks for writing. I’m so gonna bookmark your blog 😀
    Love Stipp.

    • alain butin
      September 10, 2016

      How hard to get through, so I answer in this way to Stippi… be original. God has given you wings. The best way to meet your self is a solitary life. No one around to judge you and no one around to blame. Carry on, dear Sippi, and go discovering that you are divine. Love u all [😊]

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  17. insomniadic
    July 20, 2016

    Thank you for this post. This is fantastic writing and information in here.

    I was told I was schizotypal about 6 months ago. Been seeing psychiatrist since university and first it was ADHD (but lots of manic behaviours) then Pure OCD and schizotypal.

    I have q degree but having a hard time working a boring cubicle job. The under stimulation is akin to torture. I’m trying to find alternate ways to be financially independent as I hate relying on others and don’t want to be a bum or end up homeless, even though I have an extensive family I know I couldent ask anyone else, people are selfish I get it that’s why I need my own cash.

    I’m so under stimulated in my work, I need to find a good fun way to make a lot of money. I’ve been trying flipping and what not.

    I don’t know, my future is looking bleak and my quirks are getting weirder as the years go on, I don’t think I realize how strange I am sometimes, I used to be much more socially successful and empathetic, I could read people well. Now, my thoughts are consumed with others negative judgements that are probably not even there but might be I’m not sure. Im not sure I can rely on my mind.

    I struggle with religion because I think I misinterpret it too but at the same time it gives me strength and sometimes I think this is the devils ruse and there’s no such things as psychology (well not that far but I’m sure we all know it’s ok to be a little skeptical of these labels ).

    I wish I could get better socially and not have the anxiety as much, maybe pills will help with that but at the same time I don’t want to be another office drone. If my confidence in my abilities meets my actual skills and I work on improving them, I think I’ve got great potential.

    I just can’t stay focused long enough, start and never finish projects and just switch gears so fast all the time.

    I’m a wrecklesss driver it’s how I get my thrills and drive maniacally around town constantly.

    I smoke pot and tons of cigarettes. I drink only when I go out and party on Friday Saturday, I have my phases where I go out lots. I occasionally grab a random beer or drink from a liquor store but rarely get drunk off it.

    Doctors and psychiatrist and psychologists are all pretty much morons. Haven’t met one I respected although I’m still actively looking. Medications I take on and off and never long enough for them to actually work.

    I’m writing this here kinda as a journal post for myself as well now that i realize this.

    • craigweiler
      July 20, 2016

      I’m glad you liked my post. I have some general suggestions that worked for me based on my experiences.

      Plan on being self employed. It will give you an opportunity to make money based on your abilities rather than what someone wants to pay you.

      The job should be a jack-of-all-trades type, so that you have a lot of variety and challenges to keep you from going insane. I am a handyman, which I’ve become an expert at. It’s taken many years for me to get a bit bored with it. But the upside is that I don’t have to work long hours to make enough money so that I have time and energy for other things.

      Learn sales, purchasing and negotiation. They’re all invaluable skills for the self employed. Join toastmasters so that you can become skilled at presenting yourself.

      Lay off the pot, cigarettes, pills and whatnot gradually because you’ll need a clear mind, especially at first so that you can absorb and utilize a lot of information very quickly to get up to speed on whatever you choose.

      When you’re self employed you need to be pretty sharp at the beginning because you’ll make mistakes and have money problems until you get up to speed.

      That’s all I can think of. Good luck.

  18. Daniel Thompson
    May 26, 2016

    Thank you for writing this. I have that diagnosis, and I can relate to what you write, especially the part about being right-brained and right-handed.

  19. Thank you sir for this highly informative and germane article. If I may, I’m noticing that there are several parallels between this “disorder” and high-functioning autism, formerly known as “Asperger’s Syndrome.” Whatever will they come up with next?

  20. jennyrenne
    March 24, 2016

    I think its important to note that plenty of healthy people hear voices and have so called hallucinations. even George Bush said he heard God telling him to go to war with Iraq. and many people have weird experiences after a close one dies, verging on paranormal. visions, voices and other weird stuff.

    and none of these people have had to be diagnosed as mentally ill.

    the problem when you have schizophrenia is you lose control over your mind and feel afflicted, attacked, stalked etc. etc. often the voices are abusive and you can’t get rid of them. this is the difference. this is when a person needs help with treatment of some kind.

    it is not an illness just because you see and hear things that others don’t seem to experience.

    moreover it is possible, once the schizophrenia is treated effectively with medication, to lead a perfectly NORMAL functioning life AND be psychic and/or a medium. and I am living proof of it.

    why there has to be this line drawn between schizophrenic illness and psychic ability without considering the two merging I don’t know.

    • Ryan
      September 18, 2016

      I disagree with the line meaning you can’t be both. My personal experiences as both (schizophrenia, ptsd, bipolar manic, adhd, psychotic, and very low level sensitivity) have taught me in a slow painful way that misinterpreted sensitivity can be the unfortunate mental illness and because of my problems I have disregarded my sensitivity on occasion when I should have trusted it. I’m 28 and take my speakers 500 my per day, lay off the weed nowadays and reduced my drinking greatly. I’m decent at guessing heads or tails with multiple coins, triangle/ straight line, no spirits talk to me or any high end stuff. I just let the holy spirit guide, pour some whiskey on a rock, take my pill, and think long and hard about what I sense (my uber self). Note fairly common for me to (for example) call three heads triangle formation and get the opposite or for that formation to occur on the following toss.

  21. Terri B.
    January 23, 2016

    Hey Craig,
    You’re writing truly spoke to me. Describes my personality perfectly. It kinda sucks. I mean, I always thought maybe I was borderline. At least, that’s what I was last diagnosed with outside of general anxiety and depression. But, after reading this blog plus my own schizotypal research, yep.

  22. Anonymous
    January 14, 2016

    Dear Craig,
    Thank you for your post as it been very helpful other than the other medical websites i have read about.
    i was in a long distance relationship for 6 years and after it was married to him for almost two years, while being married we started having problems that were not that big of a deal but to him to was divorce material and we ended it to an official divorce.

    before divorcing we tried marriage counseling, and obviously that didnt work out as well (he stopped attending after she tried to convince him and that actually worked) , then the counselor mentioned schizotypal to me and my husband has quite some symptoms. (I read that it appears in early adulthood and it appeared in him at that time)

    our relationship started as teenagers, and suddenly after marriage he started changing with no communication between us that was working and he blocked me entirely from trying to work out anything with what ever approach i could think of.

    our divorce ended without a closure, and i am not sure that his family are aware that he might be diagnosed with schizotypal, I am eager for a closure but don’t know how to approach him ( As he kept telling me while we argue that i am too emotional and he wants rational words)

    please advice me if it is a good idea or not with this disorder.

    Thank you.

    • craigweiler
      January 14, 2016

      This is not a medical website and I do not give medical advice. I have no way of knowing from your description what is going on with the man you describe. Lots of guys complain that women are too emotional so this is hardly enough information to go on.

      I don’t see how I could advise you on this.

  23. Anonymous
    November 1, 2015

    Thanks for the informative blog Craig.
    I’ve been dwelling and roaming the internet in an effort to find some real life answers to what ppl with this diagnose go through, instead of the jargon and the five ” miss or hits ” that might fit on ones description.
    It’s nice to see how others have overcome the stimuli that can be overwhelming and if not carefull might even take you under the surface, mentalywise.
    Unlike you I have gone through a couple of psychotic episodes, in which both external stress and lack sleep took me to that level.
    I was diagnosed with this personality type when i was 19, and have been living with it my whole life, but no until i turned 30 have i come to terms with who I am.
    And the thing that i found was within the line of your text.
    I need to make my own terms on how to live in this odd culture, that doesn’t support the mental aspect that I know is real. All the 6’ts senses, collective conciusness and whatnot.
    And as some, if not most, with this personality I too am highly creative and that is what im going to do. Support myself through arts and trading. ( which comes as a bit of a second nature, as i’ve grown in the gypsy culture also. )
    And for that über me; for me it wasnt as nicely cut. It sort of developed on its own ,and was my demon more that of an angel. Protectingin me from too much it started to cut preemptively my actions. I leaned on it too much. To the point that putting down the milk carton on the wrong time would in the laws of causality cause a different timeline that wasnt optimal. And yes this went to the point of paranoia.
    But as a tip, before going into some sort of nonsensical rambling, i have to say meditation and religion have been by my side all my life as a source of strength.
    Now, a thing that i never could have imagined, I’m happily married to woman who shares my point of view to the world, if not in all its quirks, but most. And she is someone who I can share this wonderful time that has been given to us in here.
    Luck and love to all.

  24. Heather
    November 1, 2015

    I am 31 yr old female. I have very few ppl in my life on a regular basis. I was diagnosed with schizotypal, four years ago. I participated in Dbt therapy for ppl with borderline personality disorder, for three yrs until my therapist hurt my feelings. Since I left therapy, I have completed high school.(long time goal:) I have a strong since to try to understand my extreme emotions and how they negatively effect my decision making. You talked about a uber self , I do become aware of my altered state of mind but usually not until the damage is done. I have never been truly comfortable with myself as a person. I am embarrassed to be me most the time. Mostly because I know I stand out…also because I never know when my state of mind/ emotions r going to alter the way I feel and I tend to react inappropriately in response. There is a lot of days I have to convince myself my life has purpose and not to give up! (I struggle with self care) I have to constantly remind myself I have two boys(sons) my oldest is 12 and high functioning autistic. And my youngest is 6.( My husband of 13 yrs works out of town).

  25. Dani
    July 5, 2015

    Thank you for the wonderfully clear article. My son was diagnosed about 5 years ago. Today he is approaching 30yrs old and spends his days in the house reading or talking on a telephone chat line to unknown people about philosophy, spirituality, or other similar topics. He is very intelligent and can be socially charming but he no longer wants to attend family functions. He rarely goes out unless it is with myself or my husband. I am concerned about his health since he refuses to seek any treatment. He hasn’t had any psychotic episodes in almost one year so I am happy about that but I would like for him to see a general practitioner. He smokes cigarettes and will self medicate with alcohol or marijuana which help him to sleep or “concentrate in the stuff in his head”. I am unable to really talk to him because I tend to get very emotional whereas he is always logical and seemingly detached. I wish I was able to communicate with him and encourage him to seek treatment to move past his current situation. Any advice for a parent?

    • Anonymous
      July 6, 2015

      Hye Dani, general practitioners are trained to think rational and will never be able to help your son, as they create a distance: this is ‘normal’ and you are not. Your son is clearly born to follow a spiritual path and his wiring will never allow him to be conditioned by this world that is being held together with a pack of lies. Your son wants to discover the wings God has given to him, he does not want to be held down on the ground. Did it never occur to you that your son is a Lightchild having it hard to earthen? A bit of pot can’t hurt, but he should avoid drinking too much alcohol in this period of his life. There is an evolution of the Light taking place and all spiritual born beings are invited to follow this evolution. Reading spiritual books and having at least one friend with whom he can share his feelings and deeper experiences could give him a tremendous boost. He is looking for Truth and confirmation. The book written by James Redfield could give him some insight in his innate divine nature. Another good book is ‘Re-member’, written by Steve Rother & The Group. And then later on he could go to ‘Siddha Tradition’, teachings shared on the net by Swami’s (Indian spiritual Teachers). Nevertheless, he should ‘earthen’ a bit as well, by having walks in the nature and so. I hope you pass the information. 😉 Good luck, God bless you all!

    • Dani
      July 19, 2015

      Hello Anonymous:) thank you for taking the time to reply. I will most definitely pass this information on to my son as it seems to follow along with his ideas.
      I truly appreciate your help and as I read your reply it almost seemed as though I was listening to him.

      Thanks again 🙂

  26. Jorge
    June 18, 2015

    Hi craig, I hope you read this.

    Im 24 years old and I got diagnosed with this mental illness a couple of weeks ago after years of going to psychiatrist’s, all my life I’ve been like this, and it is very painful to me to live with this. I don’t know what im going to do with my life, I mean knowing that this will never change is very painful to me. I lost almost all my friends..

    I tried to commit suicide two times and my family put me in a mental hospital those two times. I feel alone in this life, my family dont care about me, I hate to hate this but they are very ignorant, they think that mental illness dont exist. My brother told me several times things like “Hey just dont think in that and it will go away”, you are just looking for attention. I go alone to my therapys cause I want to be better.

    I’m thinking about living alone and study but I dont feel good to do that, I can’t deal with the social anxiety. Now I’m thinking about trying to commit suicide one more time and die.

    All what I see in my future it’s me being a homeless, I wan’t to finish school and work but I just can’t.

    I need to ask you a couple of questions. Do you think it’s possible to develop schizophrenia? Do you think I should take pills? cause when I was taking pills I got problems with my weigth and that make my mental illness even worse, and the last question is: Do you think I can finish my school with this mental illness?..

    Thank you so much craig.

    • craigweiler
      June 18, 2015

      Hi Jorge,
      First, schizotypal is a personality type, not a disorder. Basically it’s highly sensitive. Off the charts. It’s rare for this to be diagnosed as a disorder because the symptoms are kind of vague. You have to grasp it as a whole to understand what’s going on.

      It’s kind of like being bi-polar in that the emotions are so strong that they are extreme. No one understands so you’re pretty much on your own dealing with that.

      If you want to try the pill route, most people I know of who are successfully on medication have tried a few different ones in different doses before settling on something that worked for them.

      If you want to avoid pills, that’s quite a bit harder because you’ll have to learn to recognize when your emotions are doing a number on you and basically change your mind through brute force. Easier said than done, but a schizotypal is actually much more capable than they normally think they are.

      It’s not just mental problem, it’s also a gift and recognizing that is part of the process.

      • Jorge
        June 19, 2015

        Thank you craig :).

        The only thing that got me worried now is the schizophrenia. But I think I don’t have big chances of develop schizophrenia, no one in my family has schizophrenia so.

        Thank you for taking your time to read this :).

        • Anonymous
          February 16, 2016

          Avoid drugs and high stress to prevent tipping into schizophrenia. Else as craig suggested , it is a gift you need to come terms with and make it work for you and others.

      • Chrissy
        August 23, 2015

        Hi Craig, your blogs cease to amaze me! I find something related to myself on each blog! I am not so good with computers, but good in writing things down, hence my book. Would there be any chance I could send you and your wife a copy? Just a thought!

        I read stuff on Schizotypal very interesting blog. As you know I have been diagnosed with BPD ,but happy to say now with dialectical therapy, on the road to recovery. I did not have all the traits though, thank god. I am happy to say NEVER taken any pills in my life, only herbal remedies and holistic therapies.

        I am happy to say now, I am not in therapy anymore, I think I have gone to the limit and basically my therapist is anti spiritual/psychic.. etc…

        I hope to learn Spanish, is it hard to learn?

  27. R
    March 4, 2015

    Hi there!

    Reading this makes me feel happy, but also so sad for people like us- and the Johnnies if the world, who feel so short of the hopes and expectations their loves ones had for them.

    I was never able to memorize, filter and organize mass amounts of information — like that which was required of me I’m medical school. Always overwhelmed by choices and my own lack of apparent meta cognition and hence, inability to discern each alternative’a relevance to me. Ivy-league educated, with a heart of gold, my Tower of Babel came crumbling down freshman year of college when the tools I had were no longer enough to carry me through.

    Fast forward to age 40: employed part time, relying on parents for financial and emotional support, but living a seingly normal life on the outside. After 15 years of treating my “condition,” — and it is, because I was depressed, confused, angry, overly sensitive, etcetera, etc, I am no classified as “bipolar i” or ii— still get confused, but the depressive type. Now taking an atypical antipsychotic and starting to think maybe I’ve been schizotypal all along— at least in addition to whatever else there is.

    I am just sad about the lost years, the dashed dreams and the failures to launch. Strange to not have a visible defect and yet see the manifestations of a mental/psychic one in all areas of your life around you and not be able to explain them to others— all appears to be laziness, lack of drive, etc, etc.

    Don’t want to cry doe self anymore, but it’s like their is a whole funeral that was never grieved and I think I need to acknowledge this before I move on.

    A month ago I started thinking, “why don’t I apply for disability of some sort— or welfare–” if only to start relievingy parents of a financial burden I do NOT want them to have in their old age.

    I grew up in an environment that taught any capable individual should not subscribe to these programs— resources responsibly left for theost indigent and uncared for in our population. Now I’m thinking twice…

    Just a little scared of dropping the dream of self-sustenance and admitting this might be the most realistic, responsible thing I do.

    Either this new atypical antipsychotic changes everything for the first time or this is a route I should strongly consider. I have been practicing “Uber-self” exercises, but realize the importance of implementing that process in everyone not of life— not just big decisions— until it becomes innate. 🙂

    Any words of advice for me?

    • R
      March 4, 2015

      I, too , am editing myself, so many spellcheck errors as a result of typing on phone… Like, I AM classified as bipolar— and misspellings like “theirs,” instead of “there’s.” Clarity of writing matters in a digital agr, so I apologize for not having edited my “editor!”

  28. Orah
    December 3, 2014

    Thank you for writing this eloquent article. There is a dearth of literature regarding this personality disorder. As a clinician, I found your article to be very helpful.

  29. joshin ya
    February 27, 2014

    so what i think a point i was wondering about
    in terms of say special sensitivies like hiss
    might they be in another coin that just psychic abilities
    but result in a lot of similar issues to those who have psychic abilities….

    maybe like how
    geminis astrologically are said often to be hyper alert but often not see it
    as something psychic…

  30. joshin ya
    February 26, 2014

    is there a differentiation in schizotypal as infj’s
    between just unique and eccentric
    without necessarily any clear cut or pronounces psychic abilities
    or necessarily a definine belief in such or the supernatural
    and those with……………

    or would such eccentric without any clear cut psychic experiences
    or belief necessarily in the supernatural
    uh cut it as being schizotypal
    but might still be infj

    • joshin ya
      February 26, 2014

      i dont think i can edit my post
      so i am uh answering myself…. uhoh
      … okay one need not have clear cut psychic events to be schizotypal

      oh millon had a strange experience the first night when he woke up from sleeping in psych ward……

      i might find what he said about that and post i here later

  31. joshin ya
    February 23, 2014

    uhoh … my super flaw detector ….is maybe picking up
    oh no… u r not aware it seems of the depth of edgar cayce and the bible and jesus..
    oh no
    i am alone again with my super sensitive ………..
    oh well …..

  32. joshin ya
    February 23, 2014

    testing by way of ifn it be easy to leave post a reply..
    yeppers u c i was likin millon stuff but
    whoa i said what’s goin on with his stuff on schizotypal
    and came quickly to the same conclusion as thee…

  33. StephanieA
    January 24, 2014

    Thank you so much for this article. I’m almost 26 and was diagnosed with Schizotypal pd along with MDD etc. I’ve been in psychotherapy about six months and its helping so much. I’ve bern feeling quite clear minded and driven lately and i’m able to think about where i want to be in the next few years. I’m trapped in a life of unproductivity right now but i know i want a change and am trying to figure out how now. I found this by googling best jobs for the schizotypal. Im so glad to read about how you have been able to live a wholesome life. I can relate so much to what you’ve written and knowing others out there make me feel a little less alone in the world. I can be quite sensitive sometimes to the inhumane things i continuously witness but sometimes feel like no one cares to listen. This was a great article and im very interested in reading more of what you write. Thank you.

    • craigweiler
      January 24, 2014

      I’m glad I can help. Thanks for the kind words. 🙂

  34. Sarah
    January 20, 2014

    Craig, thank you so much for illustrating these truths. I was terrified that I would be medicated and told I was delusional about my psychic abilities. if they aren’t real then I simply can’t trust anything. You clearly addressed how the beliefs of the psychiatrist come into play, as well as that the typical solution to medicate the patient ultimately isn’t the best solution, which was my gut instinct about it to begin with. I just want to thank you because I do believe reading this has changed my life. Thank goodness you made it here to help us.

  35. Marilen
    January 11, 2014

    I still remember the commotion in your head when you were just 2 or 3 years old was so loud and disruptive that in order for you to hear what I had to say I would have to touch you, hold your face in my hands and wait until I was sure you could hear me. I had no idea what was going on and later thought you might have had childhood schizophrenia.

    • craigweiler
      January 11, 2014

      Hi Mom,
      Yeah, that’s the thing. You had no way of knowing what was going on. Even to this day it took quite a bit of research on my part to understand this. I had a conversation with Dad awhile back about this. There is no blame here for anyone. Back then no one had any idea what this was and there certainly were no guidelines for dealing with it. There still aren’t. The taboo in science on psychic ability and such prevents important knowledge from being spread and widely known that could help parents and their children. I was never really close to having a psychotic break, hallucinations or schizophrenia, even at my worst. I always had this part of me that could take a step back and make that choice consciously; I was never out of my mind even when things got really bad. But that’s hard for someone to see and evaluate from the outside, even a mother or a father.

      What is a parent to do when information that they desperately need simply isn’t available?

  36. Jason
    January 10, 2014

    I’m new to blogging and don’t know who’s ears this will fall on. To make a very long story somewhat short, I have been with my girlfriend for about two years and moved in with her about 10 months ago. I always knew something was… We’ll… Different with her. After a few months she told me shamefully that she had been diagnosed with aspergers… This however turned out to be not true. Last week she had been drinking late and started to act on a way that was very confusing somewhat aggressive and frankly frightening to me. When I told her that….she started to attack me. I mean really violently physical attacks along with vicious verbal attacks of everyone she knows I love. My response was to stand there and keep telling her she was crazy . I have to stress that I did not know she had this condition. Anyway after she thrashed herself around and broke stuff in the house she came out with a bloody lip and said I did it to her and that she was going to call the cops and starting spitting the blood in my face. I curled into a ball to protect myself and just prayed that she would get tired and go to sleep. The next morning she acted normally…she was mad at me but made no mention of what had happened. After I told her what happened she broke down and told of the diagnosis she had received ten to fifteen years earlier. One she had ignored and lied to herself about. Since then I have spent hours on the web reading about it and looking up resources and your blog is the only thing that I am understanding or agree with. If she is delusional as this suggests… Then so what? I think people that have any kind of magical thought such as religious or superstitious could be classified the same. I do have to say that she has hallucinations and until recently believed our house was haunted. Now she’s scared of herself. I could go on but basically what I posted for was to say that I love her and I want to help. I also know that I will take the brunt of these episodes and it will most likely never end. I have always in my life erred on the side of compassion and understanding…for good or ill that is how I deal with people I love and care about…but everyone has given me the same advice since I’ve been talking about it: ” get the hell out of that situation” the literature also suggests this for HER well being, and she goes back and forth on a daily basis on that topic. I just need some help.

    • craigweiler
      January 10, 2014

      Hi Jason,
      What you’ve described is not a schizotypal personality. At least not in any form I’m familiar with. A schizotypal that is impaired is typically overly sensitive and empathetic to the point of being paralyzed by it, not out of control and wildly violent.

      Just off the top of my head, (as a non doctor) it sounds like a temporary chemical imbalance brought on by eating or drinking the wrong stuff and that she should be very careful about what she puts in her body and make sure that she avoids food and drink that trigger these episodes. A combination of being really tired and then having a big chemical imbalance can cause even ordinary people to lose some control and be unusually irritable and angry. A good diet and plenty of sleep can do wonders for controlling this type of behavior.

      She might not like the loss of freedom that comes from leading a much more disciplined life but it’s a small price to pay for avoiding psychotic episodes.

    • Sindre
      January 30, 2014

      Looking for closure? Don’t hold your breath.


      The Borderline is much like a tornado that rips through your world, leaving only destruction and chaos in its wake. You can easily lose your home and family, your job or business, your health, your reputation, your friends, etc. Is he/she really worth it? You be the judge.

      The Borderline’s defenses will derail any/all friendly, open dialogues that might afford you some peace of mind–unless you’re extremely fortunate enough to catch him/her in a lucid or sane moment. The problem is, even if you do–it revives your hope that this individual can behave in a rational, healthy manner (which is how you stayed far too long in the first place)! The upshot? You are right back in that painful yearning for the kind of love you couldn’t quite grab onto, while you were together. You’re playing with fire. Leave it alone -PLEEEESE!!

      In truth, the only kind of closure you can get on this, involves You coming to terms with the fact that you’ve tried to have a functional relationship with a dysfunctional individual. Learn and grow from this experience–and move on to someone healthier.

      • Dani
        October 25, 2015

        It is so upsetting to me that this is the reputation Borderlines have. So much stigma for us. We can function normally and without meds. It’s a process and constant work but it can be done. Our biggest fear that drives our antics is fear of abandonment, yet the advice always given to those with a BPD is to run. I have learned to look at myself from the outside and evaluate myself and learn my triggers. It works most times, there are times it doesn’t. Luckily I’ve helped my spouse to become informed on how to effectively deal with me.

  37. Anonymous
    October 3, 2013

    Thanks, I’m 14 and I accidently stumbeld upon Schizotypal and realized that I wasn’t just’quirky.’ I read all kinds of terrible things till I found this…. thanks so much.

  38. anon
    September 4, 2013

    Craig, I wanted to add that it’s also wonderful to hear a man’s perspective on these topics. The overwhelming majority of what I have read about sensitivity/empathy/introversion/intuition/psychic ability has been written by women. And while some of their insights were immensely useful, it is nonetheless wonderfully validating to read a man’s take on these issues, since I’m a man. I had hoped to find something like that in the writing of Ted Zeff, but I don’t resonate with his “author’s voice”, and with many aspects of his perspective. While I commend him for sharing his truth with the world, I somehow don’t click with his writing and thought.

  39. anon
    September 4, 2013

    You writing is excellent. I read a bunch of Elaine Aron’s stuff, years ago, and found it immensely helpful. Life changing. I read some stuff about introversion, a little later, that I found moderately helpful. More recently read a book by Yvonne Perry, about empaths. Liked it, but did not resonate with everything in it. Nonetheless, it brought me some relief, and a way to reframe my experience. I cannot help but feel grateful for that. Tried to read Rose Rosetree’s book geared towards sensitive people (“Become the Most Important Person in the Room: Your 30-Day Plan for Empath Empowerment”), but the whole vibe that I perceived in that book made my skin crawl. I made it through maybe a third of that book, before tossing it for good. Found it painful to even look at the author’s photo in that book. As though tentacles of nasty energy were coming off the page towards me. Without exaggeration. I add this last part simply to validate those who might have had a similar experience with her work. I’ve read a lot of positive reviews of her stuff, and I acknowledge that experiences will differ. But the negative reviews really hit home for me.

  40. Matthew
    August 7, 2013

    I just want to thank you. Your blog is more informative than all the medical descriptions/symptoms that litter the internet. I have been delving deeper into alcoholism and incessant marijuana use since I barely managed to graduate from college a few months ago. I knew there was something wrong but thought it was just depression or OCD or ADD or social anxiety or some combination. I went to the doctor after failing an entire semester and she referred me to a psychologist (I think I scared her, I was at rock bottom and just opened up, I was also in a sort of manic state). I am glad I did not go. I was reluctant for so long because I did not want to take drugs (even though I have been binge drinking and consuming edibles on an almost daily basis). One night in a stoned stupor I decided to look up Schizophrenia. I thought I might be suffering from it, but I do not have the powerful hallucinations or delusions. That led me to the Schizotypal personality and I knew immediately I had this. This was about a month ago, but your blog is so much better and more informative. None of the doctor jargon. More real and emotional. Ha! Like us! I feel I have even adopted the superman to watch over me like you, if I had not I think I would have killed myself. But all this was relatively recent, I always thought that there was something wrong with me personally as an individual as if it were all my fault. So again I just want to thank you.

    Also have you ever had trouble with being productive or working on projects or the like? If so how did you deal with it? My mind is racing and all I want to do is daydream or sleep (to dream). How do you focus yourself? I have a menial job as a security guard now where I do nothing (2.8 GPA means I will probably be here a while) and am trying to be productive with all the free time. Thanks again!

    Also I have been tapering off my drug use. I remember over Christmas I was drinking 157 proof absinthe everyday. I am slowly pulling myself upwards. Its really sad about Johnny. If only society were more inclusive and open about psychological stuff like this he might have been able to get help before it was too late and he slipped too far into the night. My mother always told me I blew everything out of proportion. That I was being stupid and my feelings were not important. Its people and ideas like this that make people like us turn to drugs.

    • craigweiler
      August 7, 2013

      I am really glad that I can help. Matthew, I don’t know your age but it sounds like you are in your twenties. I had a terrible time being productive and working on self initiated projects at that age. I also drank like a fish. The racing mind is from stress; there’s not much you can do about it because it runs so deep. The good news is that, at the risk of sounding trite, it does indeed get better.

      The path is hard, but very rewarding. Face your fears, every chance you get and whenever you feel like you want to back down, stand tall. You have to do this over and over again probably for the rest of your life. Over time, this reduces your stress and you become calmer because the stress that gets to you now will seem trivial later if you do this. You will get good at this and people will start looking up to you because you’ll be calmer and more focused than anyone else. I’ve done it; I’m still doing it and it works.

      • James
        February 28, 2015

        Hi Craig. Thanks for your extremely well written piece on schitzotypal . I have recently been diagnosed with the disorder after having to move countries to get an accurate diagnosis. I am 35 years old and the last 15 years of my life have been horrendous beyond comprehension. I am now on olanzapine which is an anti anxiety drug but also used to treat schitzophrenia . The drug seems to be working in terms of the anxiety but I am still soulfully
        worn out and over life.
        There is so much I could tell you about my story but I don’t have time in this forum. My question for you is how can I get through the rest of my life when existing is such a chore ? I am so worn out and have fought for so long
        that the prospect of having to get through each day seems too much. I am not suicidal or have ever attempted it , it’s just I don’t know how to heal my mind and get my zest for life back.
        If you could offer any advice it would be much appreciated .


        • Anonymous
          March 1, 2015

          Hye James, the only thing that worked out for me is to go on a spiritual journey. We live more in the right hemisphere than most people and this is in fact an advantage on spiritual level. Try to read spiritual books, this might ease your mind and even give you a purpose in life. If God has given you this unique wiring, there must be a very good reason. The only thing not to do, is to compare yourself with others. Discover your true unique being and give expression to your soul. Good luck, James!

        • craigweiler
          March 1, 2015

          Hi James,
          The anxiety that can be generated by being so insanely sensitive is hard to deal with, no question and it can certainly suck the joy out of life. The advice that I can give to you is only what worked for me, no more, no less.
          I couldn’t live being a sponge for everything around me and the way I got around it was to practice projecting my energy and my sense of self and combine this with having a bit of an attitude.
          I achieved this by arguing with skeptics until I finally realized that they were a bunch of well, dumbasses. I didn’t have to take their crap or give any respect to their opinions. They were wrong. But that is the icky stuff. There is more, better stuff to do.
          I have always indulged my creativity in whatever way I felt like. I’ve made short films, done improv comedy, stand up, given speeches, written a book, written poetry, done abstract paintings, built my own house and I run my own business. With everything I do I get a better sense of myself and my self esteem grows. I have maybe a hundredth of the anxiety that I used to.

  41. Anonymous
    July 13, 2013

    Hi Craig- I has been mentoring a 12 year old girl for about a year now. She is an amazing young girl, very smart, intuitive, wise beyond her years, and extremely sensitive whom I gave grown to care for very much. She is also very alone. She has NO friends and I am concerned about that. She also complains about feeling sick and in pain all the time and that is the reason why she never wants to go anywhere (other than the movies). I think that there is a good possibility she may fit this personality type and I want to help her embrace it and learn to live with it. It seems very overwhelming for her. Recently I pushed her to go to camp (she is out of school for the summer) one day a week so she could be with other children her age instead of staying in her apartment all day (while her mom is at work) watching movies and sleeping. She went for a couple hours and I picked her up. She said it was terrible and wouldn’t go back. We got into a bit of an argument about it. I told her I didn’t think she was trying and she said that I was pushing her to do something she didn’t want to do. I told her we sometimes have to do things that we don’t like to do. Anyways, I am wondering if this is the wrong way to interact with her given her possible differences. Should I not push her to be ordinary even for a little bit? Doesn’t she have to learn to deal with the “ordinary” world? She has such distain for the ordinary and stereotypes as she calls it. She doesn’t want to be one at all costs. What is the best way to encourage her? Guide her?

    • craigweiler
      July 14, 2013

      If she is psychic and therefore highly sensitive, then being normal (ordinary) won’t work for her. Another trait is being highly individualistic and having very high creative intelligence.

      Yes, she does need to deal with the ordinary world, but on her terms, not theirs. Give it to her as a problem that she has to solve in her own way. She’ll figure it out.

      Creative intelligence is hard to live with. The rest of the world looks shallow and preoccupied with worthless unimportant crap with very little meaning. But there is a way to get past that and that’s what she has to learn.

      When you want her to learn something, explain in great detail why you want her to learn it and why you think it’s important for her. Once she gets it, she’ll make it her own and all you need to do is support her efforts.

      Her crowd will typically be in the arts; usually theater, but also music or writing. Good luck with this. It’s a challenging age.

      I hope my advice is helpful.

      • Anonymous
        July 26, 2013

        Yes it is thank you. Her mother actually contacted me recently to let me know that she was going to be moving in with her father in another city. They have not been able to get along and it’s gotten so bad that her mother felt there was no other choice. I have been trying to give the mom advise about how to handle her daughter but I was curious with what your thoughts would be in dealing with her. She is so convinced that her mother doesn’t care about her, and that she doesn’t “try” to understand her. She verbally attacks her mom on a daily basis with these types of accusations. She has talked to me about these “terrible” things her mom has done but there are never any specifics (always very vague). It seems to have more to do with her mom not listening to her, understanding her, and not being there for her (those are the central themes). In talking with the mom it sounds like mom can’t win and she doesn’t know what to do and feels she can’t do anything right. If she asks questions she is accused of being rude and interrupting and if she listens quietly she accused of not paying attention and caring. I have also received the same kind of reactions from her. It’s very confusing and exhausting. There seems to be a total perseveration on what the other person is doing and how they are acting all the time with no regard/understanding for her own behavior and how it affects other people’s reactions. I think this is why she has not one friend. How do you deal with that? Also on various occasions, she will talk about wanting to grow up to be a Super Hero. She gets very upset if you do not entertain this idea with her. She becomes very adamant that it could be a possibility and again gets very mad if you don’t agree. This alarms me a little each time I hear her talk about it because I worry that the lines of reality are being blurred (she is big time into movies and spends all her free time watching them). How is it best to deal with this? In general, is it best to validate the strong emotions and perceptions she has even if they are not matching the actual situation? Or is it best to challenge them?

        Finally, I am very concerned about this child. She is so young and to already to be experiencing so much pain. The more I read about Schizotypal Personality I feel that it very much explains her but I don’t want to jump to conclusions. She is by far the most unique, intuitive, wise beyond her years but confusing and alone child I have ever met. I work with lots of kids, with and without disabilities, and I truly have never met anyone like her. Do you think it would be a good idea to steer mom in the direction of learning about this type of personality? I think there is going to be a long rough road ahead-wouldn’t this information be powerful and enlightening?

        • craigweiler
          July 27, 2013

          We’re running out of space in this comment area. You can start a new comment if you like or email me. craig @ weiler . com (just remove the spaces)

          It can help to educate the mother on schizotypal personalities, but only to a point. There is NO information available on how to deal with schizotypal children that I know of.

          The kid has trust issues, which is not surprising. I had them too at a young age and it was similarly over the top. It’s easy to get caught up in that drama when you’re misunderstood. There is no internet advice for this. Someone who understands how she thinks needs to talk to her so that she begins to understand who she is.

  42. devilkingkyozo
    February 26, 2013

    Hello Craig,
    Darwin also speculated on the Ego and super ego. (Ones own mental overwatch; let’s call it that for haste. I can only speculate on what my condition may be. I have been diagnosed a few things. Treated for more. My internal struggle is .. difficult. I do not have multiple personalites nor full hallucinations. More so in-depth daydreams. Most controlled. Sadistic sub-visuals prey upon me. All that one could share is knowledge, and wisdom (funny the two are seperated.) I am 22 almost 23. Very limited options for career and schooling. As. Johnny aforementioned I also survive off others want for me to and good will. Logical thinking has always kept certain harsh decisions. Now logic comes to the same reality. All I have to ask to one older without the same life merely a similar thought distortion. Will it ever be less painful?

    • craigweiler
      February 26, 2013

      Yes, I absolutely guarantee that it gets better. I have lived a life of facing my pain and my fears and my sensitivity. Over time, they have had less power over me and things have gotten steadily better.

      How bad was it? As a kid I toyed with the idea of simply going insane and attacking people just to be put away and remove all the difficulty of just living. I built things just to destroy them, I was sent to therapists several times. I did not have a real relationship with a woman until I was in my mid twenties. I would lay awake for hours practically every night waiting for sleep to finally come.

      I was a wreck, but I didn’t give in to drugs and I never stopped trying. Slowly, ever so slowly, I crawled out of that hole and steadily improved my life. I got married; almost ten years later we moved from a crappy part of town to a very nice place. I built my own house; I started my own business and I learned to respect myself. It was all so horribly slow in coming, but over time, I felt better about myself. People look up to me now.

      It is quite challenging being so different and so sensitive, but you can learn to take advantage of the positives and minimize the weaknesses. It is doable.

      • Alan
        February 28, 2013

        In accepting who we are we have faith in God’s creation. Not all flowers are blue, are they? All we (all) need to do is to give expression to our unique being. Reveal your core to the world and stop thinking u r sick, u r just different and I (after decades) find this rather an advantage, not being conditioned like most of people. I listen to my inspiration and that sets free, believe me. Connect with the Source (The Sweet Spirit of Love) and u will find out why u r the way u r. Together we are One, so no way you ever could have been different of what you are now. The Universal Laws never fail. Have faith in the message you bring into this world. Love you all!

  43. Katie
    June 1, 2012

    This has really shed some light on some personality differences I’ve been wondering about for quite some time now. Thanks so much for sharing. Do you think this disorder is worth seeking treatment for?

    • craigweiler
      June 1, 2012

      No. It’s not actually a disorder, it’s a personality type. And besides, all they know how to do is drug you, which is an inappropriate solution and can physically damage your body.

      Basically, a lot of the mental problems people develop are simply because they don’t understand themselves and no one else does either. As long as you understand that you are highly sensitive and this is going to create some limitations which you have to respect, you’ll be fine. In return, you get to feel more alive than most people and you’ll age well.

      • Alan
        June 2, 2012

        That’s right, Craig! I’d say: ‘Try to live a life of full awareness in the present time.’ One could see all creation as one Body, and we all are part of the Body just the way we are. Do not compare yourself with common (conditioned) people, but be free and fly! 😉

  44. Alan
    May 2, 2012

    Hye Craig, I never red so clearly about my state of mind and my being in general. You are doing a great job writing this! As a child, I did not feel ‘at home’ here on Earth. I was silent and ever communicating with ‘up above’, and had a strong tendancy for harmony around me, as I felt within. I had a mass of creative energy, but nobody in this world taught me to express.myself. Being misunderstood and feeling like an alien in this world, I became autodestructive by taking harddrugs, like Johnny did or still does. This stopped when I lived a Lightexperience. I stayed in my bed for several days without eating or drinking and I was totally reborn. Eversince (june 2001) I’ve developed my channel to remain in communication with the Source. I wrote evrything down and am now trying to find the time to make a book of these Communions, which have brought me to total Self-realization. I still work parttime, and this is very hard, believe me! But now I can clearly see our big advantage compared to people clinging on to the world they see. We live on a higher sensitive level, and we just haave to deal with this, trying to express our true Self (as special as one may be) in this material dimension. I hope ‘Johnny’ finds the courage (and all other schizotypal persons) to walk the way I have walked, as hard as it may be. We have not come to the world to be a victim of it, we have come to be who we Are.
    Thanks again for your great article, God bless you!

    • craigweiler
      May 5, 2012

      Unfortunately, the next time I hear about Johnny will probably be when he dies. He’s not doing well physically. Thanks for sharing your experience; few people have courage to undertake a purification like you did. It’s not something that I have ever done. I’m glad that I can be of service.

      • Alan
        May 6, 2012

        I hope Johnny won’t die without a fight. Let him return to the state of mind when he was a child and what his lifewish was back then. It’s always possible to start all over again. I’ve been under narcosis for several days and that kinda helped. Then one has got to remotivate himself, letting the soul speak. I hope he will make it, every river can be crossed 😉 Good luck, Craig!

    January 31, 2012

    Craig, I found your blog courtesy of a link from Nancy Evans-Bush’s blog, Dancing Past the Dark. She described it as “a Christmas present” to her readers. Indeed, it is. Please, keep up the excellent, informative work. Thank you!

    • craigweiler
      January 31, 2012


  46. Rachel
    January 18, 2012

    Hypocritical that I get ignored for being ‘weird’ or British, when I’m weird because I probably have the schizotypal personality that makes me weird, but oddly consistent when you consider that this personality type puts direct experience before belief, and I have said many times on this site that belief is mostly irrelevant.

    • craigweiler
      January 18, 2012

      Yeah, I find it interesting that so many people think we’re dealing with beliefs, when it’s them doing the believing. We’re actually responding to experiences.

  47. Monica
    January 16, 2012

    This sounds like what I want to tell ‘scientific’ people all the time. No. You aren’t ‘logical’ or ‘rational’. You’ve cut your emotions off and you’re losing out on valuable knowledge for it. And refusing to turn your emotions back on doesn’t make you special or the universe a better place, it just makes you crippled.

    • craigweiler
      January 16, 2012

      Well yes, that’s one way to look at it. However, you might want to consider that the forces that made you and I different made them who they are as well. They can no more change their biology than we can. They are wired a certain way.

      • Alan
        January 26, 2014

        Yep, we must accept the form God has given us. There are more pro’s than con’s in being schizotypal, but the rational world didn’t write a manual. We must all discover who we truly are and not conforming us to a rationa thinking world, for that is exactly what makes so many people crippled! Be natural, be who you are!

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