Parapsychology Journalism: The People, The Theory, The Science, The Skeptics
There is a lot to like about being psychic. The deep connection to nature, the ability to feel great joy and to appreciate great art, the ability to be spontaneous and creative and of course, to experience mysticism to a degree unavailable to anyone else.
I wouldn’t have it any other way. I like who I am. But that doesn’t mean that I am ignorant and unaware of the sometimes nearly unbearable stress that this sensitivity brings with it. It takes its toll even on people like Sylvia Browne, who have been exposing themselves to the public eye for many years. She’s had her troubles, believe me.
Every psychic person that I’ve known has experienced some difficulty in dealing with life; and most have experienced a lot. What is probably the most damaging is that we are prone to feeling terrible guilt, often over relatively minor things. There is a tendency to take care of other people first and neglect ourselves and this is often so strong as to be paralyzing. I can remember having a tough time learning to win because I didn’t want anyone to lose; I would feel their pain with them. The problem with that of course is that I also wanted very much to win.
I liked winning and this was in direct conflict with an overwhelming desire to protect others from losing. While this may seem rather idiotic to outsiders, it is very serious business to the strongly empathetic person. That, in and of itself, is a great source of stress. To get what we want often means that other people are losing out. Many psychic people turn into people pleasers, obsessed with making other people happy or at the very least not having them be angry. In fact, I would put dealing poorly with anger on the top of the psychic’s list.
This leaves these psychic people feeling powerless because it is impossible to effectively negotiate from this position. If the other person is angry and especially selfish, the psychic person will find themselves giving in to conditions they did not want. Feeling powerless is such a great source of stress that many people get physically sick from this.
For the record, meditating on the white light of protection or similar devices will do you no good here. It’s ineffective for reasons I won’t go into here. Basically, you have to learn how to stand up for yourself.
As children, we are told to toughen up, often by people who have no idea how difficult that is for us. Just for comparison’s sake, I consider myself to have finally toughened up to my satisfaction in the past three years or so. I’m 49.
A certain amount of stress seems to be normal in psychic people. I have never known anyone who was really psychic who could stay calm for an extended period of time while they were getting on with life. We only seem to be calm when we’re either in nature and away from the stresses of life, or smack in the middle of life threatening emergencies.
Yeah, that one. If ever my life is in danger I want to be surrounded by psychic people if for no other reason than to watch all the crazy shit they can pull off when it counts. Lifting heavy objects, holding back raging fires, mind control and God knows what else. I’m no different, I’ve been through a few earthquakes here in California and the more serious they are, the calmer and more focused I get. Although one time I was in the backyard during a five point something and I watched my wife panic and start to run in circles. I stopped being calm and started laughing.
I think it’s only fair to wrap this up by giving out some help. After all, I’ve worked out some of this stuff. So what did I learn? That caving in was a bad idea for everyone. If I didn’t stand up for myself I was not only hurting myself, but the other person as well. It made me into an enabler, encouraging bad behavior. Selfish people need a figurative punch in the nose occasionally. Then they back down.
That I can be both kind and firm at the same time. It was never going to work for me to be tough and mean. I could never do that.
Oh yeah, one more thing. To feel good about yourself you have to fess up to being psychic. Not to everyone you meet, but at least to the people you know. You have to get used to being who you really are and making people take it. It’s hard to feel freedom from the inside of a closet.
And finally, I must constantly find my fears and face them; never stopping this process, never slowing down. Doing this gradually makes it easier to sleep at night. (Yes, I have trouble sleeping just like the rest of you.) And a funny thing has happened. I have a different energy around me that people sense; Selfish people back down before I even get started. People look up to me and want me to take charge; I get respect. That never happened when I was younger and it’s a nice feeling.
It’s reflected in the topics I’m choosing here. I can go into the dark spaces that we share and shine the light. I hope this helps.